there's this story about a king who was asked to make a sacrifice to God at a particular property. the owner of the farm was happy to give the farm to the king free of charge because he wanted the nation to not be cursed.
but the king made sure he paid for the land and made the statement "I will never give to God something that doesn't cost me".
sometimes we don't feel like being a great husband, and it just doesn't come naturally being a dad. it feels like the tap is turned off and our minds tell us we're perhaps not meant to be doing it.
it's actually in those moments that it really costs you to be a loving husband, and it's your opportunity to give something that you didn't get for free.