Becoming a Dad can be one of the most rewarding things that happens to
a man. But the true gift in having children is not the pleasure
derived in being around joyful children. It is the change that occurs
to you as a person as you are tried and tested on a daily basis.
Essentially, every bit of selfishness needs to be driven from you as a
Father or you will be constantly upset and feeling ripped off. Indeed,
it is a choice that most men have to make at some point whether they
lay down what they are focussed on and provide what their child needs,
or press on regardless and ignore the child's needs or desires.
It may not end in disaster if you decide to remain as you were 'pre
kids', but you will certainly miss out on the wonderful character
building experience that comes no other way than by going through the
grind of loving your children every day.