times...? Why won't my kids listen to me the first time?"
If you stop and think about it... why do you think your kids don't
listen to you the first time?
What will happen if they ignore you?
So why should they listen to you?
By repeating yourself you actually train your child to know you don't
mean what you say. Your "Yes" doesn't mean yes. Your "Stop" doesn't
Is it any wonder your son or daughter doesn't listen to you when you
speak? If there is no consequence for ignoring you and doing what they
want, why on earth would they listen?
I'm not advocating beating your child every time they don't jump when
you say too... What I'm suggesting is that before you give an
instruction, have in your mind already what the alternative outcome is
going to be for your child if they ignore you.
You say "Get out of bed or you"ll be late for school" but they hear
"Get out of bed or I'll come and nag you another 3 times and I won't
leave until you are ready even if you make me late".
Why not just leave? Your 16 year old stays home by themselves quite
My 4 year old son won't eat his dinner. So now he has four minutes to
eat. What doesn't get eaten goes to the chickens.
And then tomorrow when I suggest he eat instead of playing, he will
know I mean what I say.
After a while of only saying things once, you will have shown that you
mean what you say, and it will help your child to trust and respect
you, because you only say things you mean.